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Celebration of Life (Living Funerals)
A Living Funeral — sometimes known as a Celebration of Life — is a unique and heartwarming gathering held before someone dies, rather than after.
It’s a chance to share stories, express love and appreciation, and celebrate a person’s life in their presence.
While traditional funerals often focus on mourning and loss, a living funeral focusses on connection, gratitude and meaningful reflection, at a time when the person is still there to take part.
At Leading Ceremonies, I am increasingly asked to create these deeply personal events for individuals and families who want to honour life in a way that feels more intentional and uplifting. These occasions can be emotional, yes — but also filled with laughter, music, storytelling, and celebration.
What is a Living Funeral?
A living funeral is a planned ceremony, held before the end of someone’s life. It can be a simple and quiet gathering with close friends and family, or a larger event with music, readings, food, and personal tributes.
Sometimes, it’s a chance to say goodbye; other times, it’s a way of the person involved to express their appreciation for life and the relationships that define it.
Unlike a traditional funeral, the person being honoured is present —and often involved in shaping the ceremony. They might speak themselves, or simply be surrounded by love and memory as others share their stories and wishes.
There are no rules or special script to follow. The occasion can be formal or relaxed, spiritual or secular, structured or free-flowing. The most important thing is that it feels right for the person and the people around them.
Who Might Choose a Living Funeral?
There are many reasons someone might decide to hold a living funeral. Those facing a terminal diagnosis may want to be part of their life's celebration whilst they still can.
Others choose it as a way to reflect on a long and full life, or to mark a particular milestone —like a significant birthday, retirement, or move into care.
It can also be a comfort to families who want to express their love, make peace, or simply be together with their living loved one. For some, it’s an opportunity to say the things that matter in the time they have together.
For others, it’s a way of easing the grief that may come later by creating a moment of connection in the present.
There is no right or wrong reason. A living funeral is a powerful reminder that we don’t have to wait until someone is gone to celebrate and recognise who they are.
Why Choose a Living Funeral?
- To express love and gratitude so it can be heard
One of the most touching aspects of a living funeral is that the person being honoured can receive the words, hugs, music, and warmth expressed for them. There’s something deeply human about hearing, “You made a difference” or “You mattered” whilst you are there.
- To tell stories, laugh, and share memories
These ceremonies can include light-hearted moments, favourite songs, family stories, or readings that bring comfort and even laughter. They can be healing for everyone.
- Bringing people together
Whether it’s a small circle or a wider community, a living funeral can help create a sense of connection and togetherness. It’s a time to gather, support one another, and focus on what is important.
- To shape your own legacy
For some, the idea of helping to shape the way they are remembered is appealing and comforting. Being part of your own ceremony gives you the opportunity to reflect on your values, your journey, and what matters most to you.
How I can Help
I work closely with individuals and families to create ceremonies that feel personal, respectful and real. Whether you want something traditional or unique, I'll help you to shape a gathering that reflects the life and personality of the person being celebrated.
I can offer guidance on format, language, readings, music or rituals —and am always open to ideas that break the mould. Every person is different. Every story is worth telling.
A living funeral isn’t about pretending that everything is easy. It’s about choosing to create a space for love, gratitude, and meaning. It can be a beautiful, healing experience — for the person being celebrated, and for everyone around them.
If you’re interested about planning a living funeral or celebration of life, or would like more information on how it works, feel free to get in touch. I'd be honoured to help create something that is you.